(Just to forewarn you, I use the word ‘very’ a lot in this post.)
It’s not fair to just say ‘stuff is going on’ and not tell you what that stuff is.
First of all, I wrote yesterday. I couldn’t bring myself to edit my novel so I worked on one of my short stories instead. Things have simply been too stressful for me to do much editorial work.
During the past month, I’ve had to–and still have to–make some huge, life-altering decisions. It involves moving far away from where I currently live.
1,982 miles (3,190 kilometers) to be exact. Sacramento, California. This is where success in the company I work for eventually leads. We’ve discussed the possibility of moving there in the past, but when we were told that we needed to make a final decision within the next few weeks, well, the discussions we’ve had went from hypothetical to very real and very difficult. Far more difficult than I ever imagined.
For me, moving isn’t that much of an issue; I’ve never been very connected with my family and I see all of this as an adventure.
For my wife, though, it’s another story. She gets anxious about things like this, and her family is about as tightly knit as they come. For her to leave is for her to say goodbye to a gigantic support network, an extended family who is very close and loves her very, very much.
There’s other complications, too. For instance, my son is on several waiting lists for Easter Seals programs, some of which are over six months long. Unfortunately we practically had to wrestle this organization to the ground just to have them send someone to our house to test our son for autism. (He did a great job, but it was found he has some minor delays, such as speech delays.)
He finally did get to meet with a speech therapist … just a few days ago. Naturally, we’re worried that if we move to a different state, getting him back into programs like this will get him back in Waiting List Hell, and will cause many more delays during such a crucial time in his life.
We’re also meeting with realtors, scrambling around the house trying to get it ready to sell, there’s been stress, there’s been tears.